WE ALL need love in our lives, so paano ma-maintain ang love life kahit hectic ang trabaho at nalalayo tayo sa ating mga sweetheart?
Simpleng tips lamang, piliin ang applicable sa inyo
1. Find ways to stay in love – Love is hard work. Kahit na mahal mo ang isang tao – kung hindi kayo nag-uusap, nag-sasabi ng “I love you…”, nagpapa-cute sa isa’t isa, bale wala ang lahat. Magkaroon ng schedule para sa lambingan kahit over the internet… bahala na kayo sa creativity ninyo
Ang importante lang ay hindi pabayaan ang LOVING FEELINGS. Paano? You have to work on it. LOVE IS A CHOICE, YOU HAVE TO FIND WAYS TO MAINTAIN THE WARMTH AND AFFECTION BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR SWEETHEART.
At kung nasa ibang bansa ka… mas doble dapat ang effort
For more ways to stay in love read about the 5 Love Languages of Gary Chapman at www.5lovelanguages.com – May mga tips dito na pwedeng mag-save ng relationship na nasa panganib na.
2. Be honest with each other – kahit na nasa malayo, malaking foundation ng relationship ang honesty. It also means that you can be yourself with your sweetheart, yung hindi kayo nag-eedit ng sasabihin habang nag-uusap. Yung kaya ninyong magsabi ng iniisip ninyo at ng nararamdaman ninyo. Reach a point that you will feel secure to say anything – to just be yourself.
What you want to avoid is resentment, na-magsisihan at may masabi ang isa sa inyo na hindi ninyo kaya maging honest sa isa’t isa kaya, call it quits na lang…
3. Huwag mag-buhos ng problema sa iba, delikado – Itong tip na ito ay napakahalaga!!! Pagkatapos ninyo itong basahin, hindi na ninyo masisisi ang isa’t isa dahil human nature ito…. If you are more open and honest with someone else who is not your sweetheart – be ready to find yourself separated in the end.
What is the use of a relationship if you have to turn to someone else to feel acceptance, love and support?
What does this mean? When times get rough, a new person is really easier to talk to than someone that you have been in a relationship already for a while. Huwag kayong magpaloko sa fact na ito. Just because this new person is easier to talk to, does not mean that he or she is a better partner than your sweetheart is!
DO NOT PRETEND na may kutob ka that the new person is not as reliable as your sweetheart, kahit na masakit sa ulo makipag-usap sa sweetheart ninyo.
Love is about commitment, a commitment that makes you a better person kasi kinakalimutan mo ang iyong makasariling pangangailangan to love and nurture another person. It takes a lot, so channel your strength through prayer and guidance from the Lord.
So when temptation comes… just tell yourself – true love is not about having it easy. True love is staying with your sweetheart even when times are tough.
Believe me, di ka magsisisi – ika nga – points in heaven ang habol natin diba? Let’s make decisions that will bring us closer to our sweetheart and closer to living an eternity with God!
4. Be mature. If you are immature, find ways to grow up kasi walang relationship ang mag-la-last kung may immature kahit isa lang sa inyo.
I DO NOT RECOMMEND HAVING A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP without any clear plans of when you will reconcile. Kahit isang buwan lang na malayo na sa inyong sweetheart, pwedeng delikado kung may isa sa inyo ang hindi mature.
Maturity is important for a relationship to work. So what does this mean? Tingnan ninyo muna ang “track record” ng inyong dini-date bago kayo mag-commit sa isang relationship.
At kung mag-sweetheart na kayo, tapos dun mo lang nalaman na immature pala siya (o ikaw) – take it very seriously and admit to yourself and your partner na hindi mapagkakatiwalaan ang decision sense mo. Admit na maaari mong ilagay sa panganib ang inyong relationship because you still don’t know how to be considerate and have empathy for your partner. Admit na di mo pala kaya mag-alaga ng iba, na medyo makasarili ka pa pala…
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Si Coach Pia Acevedo ay isang kilalang Performance Management Expert, Life Coach at manunulat ng sikat na librong Born To Be A Hero. Siya rin ay CEO ng The OneCORE- isang organisasyong nakatuon sa pagtulong sa mga tao kung paano gumawa ng mainam na desisyon sa buhay.
Pinoy Ekspert
by Coach Pia
