With the rising popularity of novels and films like the Fifty Shades Trilogy (which made a lot of money in the box-office and the charts) and music videos depicting this kind of lifestyle, it looks like more and more people are finally admitting that they want to spice up their lives by doing something ‘different’ in the bedroom.
In the first movie of Fifty Shades of Grey, the innocent but curious Anastacia gave in to the demands of her boss turned lover Christian Grey. He introduced her to the world of BDSM, which is considered as a taboo topic even within the dating community. Some people wonder, ‘how can you receive pleasure from pain?’. Apparently, there is – if you do it properly with the right person.
Whether you believe it or not, the niche community of BDSM is thriving. If you’re into it, there’s nothing wrong with it as long as there is consent and you’re responsible enough not to go overboard.
If you’re new to this, one of the best sites to start with is My BDSM Hookups. Yes, in case you are not aware, there are websites online where you can meet like-minded people in different niches. The site has bdsm contacts who are more than willing and open to explore like you do. You can learn from them and they can learn from you. As long as there is trust and respect within the community, you’re safe.
Like in any scenarios in life, it is best to start slowly. Do not do the intense stuff right away. Start with light hair pulling to mild spanking and the usage of sir/madam. Feel free to do role playing if you wish. Be open and vocal with what you want to do and what you’d like to explore. Wouldn’t it be nice to make some fantasies into reality with someone you can trust?
It is important to have a safe word when venturing in this kind of set up. It is the word that the submissive one will say to the dominant if he/she thinks that things are too much already.
You can also try a bit of blindfolding if trust is already built. There is an unexplainable sensation with being submissive especially if you’re a strong and domineering person in real life. As a friend says, it takes guts to be a submissive. A dominant in this kind of set up is actually quite submissive in real life.
If you’re not in a relationship or you think you’re not satisfied in that physical aspect of your life, it is nice to reach BDSM contacts in a community like this one because most likely, there’s no judgment and you’re all on the same page. Some of the people who meet in this kind of place end up having a lasting friendship due to their common interest. If you’re lucky, you might even meet the one for you! That will be a bonus since the bedroom will surely not be a boring one.
While we try to give you a ‘colorful’ picture of what could happen in your private life, it is still up to you to guard your heart and emotions.
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